Counting and Calculating Meditation
I recently practiced seated meditation with an old friend, which was a shift from my usual guided meditation practice.
Right away I found myself counting seconds and calculating how far into the 30 minutes I had sat. It went something like this, “Ok I'm 10 seconds in... 10 times 6 is 60 seconds, which is a minute, 1 minute times 30 is the session, and 6 times 30 makes 180, so I must be about 0.5% complete!”
At 20 seconds I was 1% complete! Just 99 more 20 second meditations and I'll be done!
Somewhere around 2 minutes into the silence I started to see the silliness of these calculations.
Was I in a hurry? No.
Was I in need of a math exercise? No.
So why was I counting and calculating the time? I believe it to be an extension of my habits around counting and calculating my life. Growth models at work. Weights at the gym. Calories at lunch. The list goes on.
Luckily I was able to follow my awareness away from calculating and into a more peaceful state of seated meditation.
Where in your life would you most benefit from taking a break from calculating?
Stronger than that
“I know you're afraid of falling flat.
I know those walls up against your back.
I know there are those who see a crack.
BUT
I know that you're stronger than that.”
-Bahamas
What would you do if you knew you were stronger than that?
Loss on loss
Almost a year ago to the day I lost something dear to me. Yesterday I lost something dear to me yet again.
I feel deep pain and sadness. Yet somehow I feel stronger now than I did a year ago. Perhaps like a weight lifter my capacity for losing without falling apart is now greater than ever.
What have you lost? How did it strengthen you?
Sleeping in my new home
My new home is a mess. There are boxes everywhere. The walls need paint and the floors need replacement.
Yet last night I slept there for the first time and it felt like my own. I could imagine the new colors and patterns, and most of all I could imagine it becoming more and more of a home as time passes.
It's easy for me to feel eager to “fix” the home, which feels like the opposite of appreciating it. Today I hope to be able to hold the appreciation for what I have alongside the desire to improve upon it. Suddenly I realize I'm talking about much more than my new home. :)
How can you fully hold both the appreciation for what you have in the present and the vision you have for the future?
Commitments and Intentions
I commit to specific actions, such as going to the gym 3x this week or drinking no more than 1 cup of caffeinated coffee tomorrow morning.
I hold intentions more loosely, wherein I intend to smile at strangers, be more mindful as I work, and generally take phone calls while walking instead of sitting.
For a long time I attempted to manage my life through commitments. Now I have the intention of living more through intentions than commitments, so that I more humbly acknowledge the limitations of my planful behavior. Wish me luck!
Moving and crying
This week I moved out of a nice apartment I had for about half a year. Sure, some memories were made, but largely this place was a temporary landing spot.
But when I was leaving for the last time I started to cry. My emotions didn't make sense, but I still felt them. I felt sad because I was letting go of my temporary home. It seemed like a disproportionate response, so I let go of my judgement and let the tears flow.
Can you feel your emotions without them making sense?
Waking up
I work hard, consciously and unconsciously, to make sense of the world around me.
Sometimes an experience arrives that challenges the way I see the world. When this happens I feel fear; at times sadness, anger, guilt, and shame show up as well.
These difficult emotions are my resistance to the truth I do not yet understand. They show me that change is underway, and true change is never easy or effortless.
Today I seek to welcome fear, that I might learn through the uncertainty of what I do not yet understand.
Right and wrong... incorrect?
For most of my life I've experienced the world with the lens of right and wrong.
I'm beginning to realize that this judgment of justice is highly subjective. Perhaps the truth of this existence is beyond my own sense of right and wrong.
Where is your sense of justice keeping you from truth?
My meditation, prayer, and mindfulness practices have brought a new sense of peace as I let go of details. I am also releasing attachment to my sense of control and illusion of being able to plan for anything.
With this sense of peace comes a fear that the peace will dissociate me from reality. Especially as a parent, I feel fear that feeling such peace may lead me away from the responsibilities I hold dear to my heart.
“I am afraid I am becoming less aware.” I said today to a trusted, wise, and beloved old friend.
“I hear nothing that indicates you are becoming less aware.” He replied. “In fact, I hear many signs that indicate you are becoming more aware.”
My mind is pretending not to understand.
My heart knows he is right.
Where is your mind playing tricks on you these days?
Beauty and truth
Many have said that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But wouldn't it be more accurate to say that beauty is in the choice of the beholder? For it is my choice more than my eye that brings me to beauty. My eye follows me when I decide to wonder at a beautiful crack in the sidewalk, appreciate fine art, or even take in a performance.
Where can you decisions bring more beauty to your eye?